Welcome to Georgia's Journey

Georgia Lily Lucas was born at home on October 6th, 2008 4:15am, in Winnipeg, Manitoba. She was diagnosed with SMA (Spinal Muscular Atrophy) on April 1, 2009.

On April 3rd Georgia was taken home, to be near her sisters and the rest of her family and friends. Nearly three weeks later, on April 21, 2009, she died peacefully -- in the loving arms of her mother and in the same room in which she was born.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

To Love Anew

Well, Aria's labor didn't go exactly as planned but then again nothing about Aria has ever been planned...at least by me. Granted we did choose to get pregnant with her consciously but I really believed that I would never be given another girl. Wrong! The truth is that I have never imagined myself being a parent to four girls but here I am. After Georgia was born we had pretty much decided that we were probably done having children. Wrong! And, after birthing 3 babies with relative ease, then the fourth should pretty much walk out right?! Wrong!

My water broke around 4:30 am Saturday morning WHILE I WAS IN BED! That never happens! I mean I wasn't even doing anything. My water broke with Maya and Georgia minutes before they were born. So, I got myself cleaned up and tried to go back to sleep. After a few big contractions I decided to get up and get showered. Mike and I made our way over to the hospital around 6:30. At that point my contractions were around 5 minutes apart and weren't very strong. I had told my mom before leaving that it was going to be a LONG day.

A short while after arriving at the hospital my contractions spaced out even more and stopped altogether. The nurses assured me that they would start me on Pitocin around 10:30 that morning if they didn't pick back up. Mike and I had breakfast and walked and walked. Later on we had lunch and then decided to have a rest. Finally, around 4:00 I received a room and the drip was started a short while later.

By 10:30 pm, 6 hours on the drip, and now enduring hard contractions they told me that I had made no progress. The long day was starting to wear on Mike and I. The doctor came in at one point and told us not to get discouraged. She was confident that as soon as the Pitocin really kicked in Aria would be born in record time. My confidence was shot and so was Mike's.

It was around this time that he said out loud, "I only hope that we can love her as much as we love Georgia." At first I was shocked and then I realized that Mike hasn't been able to feel this baby grow and move daily for the last several months. All of a suddent, I started to wonder too. Our love for Calla, Maya and Georgia were absolute. Was it possible to love another little being after losing one that we cherished? Was it really possible to love her as much as the one we had originally planned for? Was it possible to love her as much as the one I had not only brought into the world, but had held as she left it? Could I love her as fiercely as I love my other three children?

She arrived just over an hour later. The doctor had been absolutely right. 4 to 10 cm in an hour and approximately 10 minutes of pushing. There was a moment of hushed silence as they placed her on my chest. Everybody that had joined us in that room knew our family story. Everybody in that room stared at her in awe just like we did. There was no doubt that she was ours. There was no doubt that that we already loved her. There was no doubt that in that moment she held our heart in her little hands. A feeling that remains.

Love to you all,

Kristen


8 comments:

  1. Beautiful! Thank you so much for sharing such an intimate time and intimate thoughts-not many people would admit to having those questions, but truly, I think it is so natural. Although not the same as your situation at all, wondering how to love anew after losing so deeply, I wondered even having a second child if I could ever truly love her the same way I loved the first-but that is what is amazing about being a parent, just when you don't think you can love any more, any more deeply, you do-it is the greatness of parenthood!!
    I am so excited for this incredible gift of a fourth little girl, and I can't wait to meet her and see the joy she brings to your family.
    I know Georgia is with you, loving seeing Aria in your arms, loving watching the girls with her and knowing she will bring your family incredible joy!
    Love and hugs to you all, Em

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  2. That is such a beautiful story of Aria's birth and I second Emma's comments about sharing such initmate thoughts and feelings with your readers. Congratulations on your new little girl!

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  3. I agree with everyone else--what a beautiful story!! I can't wait to see pics of Miss Aria!

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  4. Crying first thing in the morning! Thanks Kristen! I love Aria's birth story. It is truly wonderful how every child we have has a special story. It touches my heart and brought back wonderful memories!

    Lots of love to all of you!
    Vanessa

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  5. Oh my! They are all little miracles aren't they. Congatulations to all of you and thank you Kristen for sharing. We are so happy for your family and little Aria is such a little cutie! Calla and Maya look very proud. Hugs and Kisses!

    Love Rick, Paula, Emma and Maggie

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  6. Water breaking (yes, in bed!) and pitocin induced labours - I'm very familiar with those, four times over :)

    So thankful that the last part finally went quickly for you.

    Thanks for sharing your story and the thoughts going through your head.

    Love is incredible isn't it?

    So glad I got to meet you in person yesterday at the recital.

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  7. Kristen and Mike,
    Thank you so much for sharing with us all. Aria is so beautiful - just as your other three angels.

    Congratulations and God's blessings ... Georgia is surely very proud of you all!

    Glen, Jenn & the girls

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  8. So happy another beautiful girl has been added to your family! I am sure she will continue to fill your hearts with much joy (and maybe even a song, considering her name)!

    May you continue to be blessed,
    Simone

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