On Tuesday we celebrated Calla finishing up kindergarten. It was quite obvious that the teacher and the kids had all worked really hard into making a special presentation for all of us. There were songs, a couple of poems and a slide presentation followed by snacks of course. Calla has really come out of her shell this year and we couldn't be happier with her development. She is already looking forward to grade one.
The roller coaster of course comes into play when I stop and look around and feel the absence. All of these big days and celebrations I feel like something is missing. It's almost like a sense of panic when you think that you have forgotten something. Of course, I haven't forgotten anything. I am just always aware that Georgie is missing. She should have been running around getting into trouble at the party and we should have been trying to keep her quiet at Calla's celebration. Not to be. It really hits home when I look at pictures and see how much the girls have changed and grown. Georgie will remain 6 months forever.
Do you know that I never sent in a family picture to Calla's class this year as requested by her teacher? I had in fact forgotten at the beginning of the year but when I went in to volunteer I saw the wall where several photos of happy families were hanging and I remembered. Many of them were obviously taken during the summer holidays and all of them were full of joy. A family picture?? The last one we had taken was by the NILMDTS photographer and while I consider it absolutely beautiful I felt funny about sending it in. So...I didn't and funnily enough Calla never asked me to. Maybe she was just confused as me about a family picture.
How do I take a family picture really? If I wanted to take a picture of all four of my girls I could give one of them a picture of Georgie and have them hold it or I could line Calla, Maya and Aria up next to Georgie's headstone. I actually don't mind that idea but others would probably find it weird.
I don't even know how to sign the thank you cards I have been handing to people on behalf of gifts for Aria. Do I sign Georgie's name too? I wasn't but now I feel guilty. It is hard to reconcile with the idea that she will always be missing from every major event that we celebrate as a family. Fourteen months, one week and two days after losing Georgia and I miss her now as much as the day that she took her last breath.
Missing you running around at the beach today Georgie,
Love to you all,
Kristen
